1. Telling the story of childhood
For example, when your first date and he went to a pizza shop. Then you told me that in kindergarten, the teacher you often do with a sudden surprise pizza party for your class. Every day you become a spirit to school and expect there will be more impromptu pizza party. You send a message that you believe in that person to talk and open. Telling the story of childhood fun and positive are much less likely to be a frustrating thing.
2. Let him know that you are enjoying the day
"Thanks to invite me over here" or "nice talking to you". This will tell him that you feel happy, and he did not need to guess whether you feel happy or not, so he could self-confidence and focus to be himself.
However, be careful, not too often express your feelings, rather than expressing your feelings to him and make him feel uncomfortable, according to your feelings about the situation. Like, "Tonight was fun to walk," rather than "I love you".
3. Do not say negative things
Avoid the negative tone of words, such as, "I'm bored." This is not to make you look vulnerable, but too rough.
4. Ask questions that make it vulnerable (in the sense either)
Say things like, "In the family, you're nearest to?" Or "What does the school for you?" If he could not answer these questions, do not give up, maybe he was just nervous. Dig deeper, or more specific. "You're near with your siblings?" Or, "In high school, you're nearest to?"
5. exciting ideas
If you have a sudden exclamation idea for a date, say. For example, if you want to share ice cream with him, suggest to buy a cone course. Be like you're going with friends. Spontaneous and try new things can be fun.
6. Demonstrate enthusiasm and energy
Create curiosity about him, and ask what is interesting, not boring questions, like "You work where?"
7. Do not be afraid to differences of opinion
It will radiate confidence. If you look at a topic opposite of his views, said it. If it turns out the situation heats up, lower the temperature by saying, "Wow, only half way on the first date, and we have a serious debate. It was wonderful we can be honest with each other and express their own thoughts.
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