Karin Anderson, Ph.D., an assistant professor of psychology at Concordia University Chicago was trying to trace what really hurt her feelings when asked like that.
Based on polls conducted Anderson, she found that single women are constantly given advice and advice by the people around him will only create a feeling of 'aloneness' is getting worse and worse.
Messages into the brain of a single woman tend to be cornering a question such as 'you too ..' or 'you're less ..'.
"Being a single woman at a certain age and are surrounded by colleagues who are married is quite difficult," Anderson said as quoted by Yourtango and seconds.
Single women should be told, 'you're fine, nothing wrong if not married, just enjoy your life'. They need positive support rather than advice given is actually cornering.
The following are suggestions that should not be filed on a single woman, according to polls conducted by Anderson on several single women.
1. 'Maybe Less Tough yourselves'
According to Anderson, who heard a single woman when told like it is 'you never tried to and often miss a chance'.
Should give spirit to undergo a new relationship with language that is more comfortable and pleasant to hear the ear. Try to give advice as natural as possible and do not sound forced.
2. 'Try More Dress'
Giving advice like this lead single women to think that 'I am not beautiful, all the men only looked at women who wear lipstick and blush to use my personality is less attractive'.
A woman would show itself in accordance with what he thinks is suitable and useful for himself. Every woman has the right to be himself.
However dressed, definitely out there at least one type of man who will love the makeup and personality. Made him change his personality traits and will not make him feel more relieved.
3. 'You Too Voters'
Single women would consider this suggestion as a form of discrimination. While other colleagues who have got a couple, single women are considered a fool because too many couples choose criteria.
We recommend that you change like this suggestion by asking what criteria he was looking for, then try to give him some experience, a solution or acquaintances where he could find the criteria he wants.
4. 'Use the tactic of the Right'
Hear advice like this makes them 'maybe you too much to intimidate the opposite sex, opinion, dodging, can not make him comfortable and should be nice in front of men'.
"This makes them think to change the identity to get their male partner and change his attitude to be more comfortable when being around him," said Anderson.
Advise a woman to change her trademark is not really the way out to get a pair, because when the true personality emerged and did not like her male partner can actually cause problems.
5. 'Do not Just Only Silence'
Maybe they heard of this statement is 'you never tried to chat or take care of you more work' or worse 'you can not fill your life with good'.
A single woman can not be defined as a woman who is always hiding in the house and never meet people every day. They also have friends, family, work, and often hold events.
Probably not because no man wants to close or your personality that are less good, but just are not the right time. Believe me, everything will be beautiful in time.
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